I mean during COVID as a nurse I paid for my neighbor’s groceries in exchange for meal prep (they were single with no kids so it was still cheaper than getting takeout all the time) but that’s a highly personal deal to cut. Incidentally though I told one of my coworkers about the deal and they were like “wait my neighbor has kids but I could probably still net positive on like half their groceries…” There were some good human moments during that time. I also promoted that neighbor who cooked for me to husband but that’s a different story.

right like at least she put in the actual conscious effort to say something shocking

factual true opinions

oh god that’s it; you’re an utterly insufferable person. And learning how to constructively approach injustice by conserving and directing your energy towards actions that will make the most real difference is a core goal of the therapy. Either put in the effort to become someone people want to be around or accept people don’t want to be around you.

No one is making you be here. You can click a button and start your own community or even spin up your own server and if your modding policies are that much better people will switch. …or none or very few of the users like what you say and the mod just happens to be the one responsible for telling you.

Is it frustrating to be part of the outgroup? Sure. Is it frustrating to have an opinion people dislike or don’t think is worth leaving their ingroup for? Sure. But that’s just called being a weirdo. Lots of people are weirdos. I’m a weirdo. In fact it’s often hard for me to get certain things done or find certain products. Bigelow doesn’t stock my favorite flavor in most stores because it’s not popular enough. That’s not oppression that’s just being unpopular.

Being a weirdo isn’t for the faint of heart. Dialectal behavior therapy changed my life and teaches four ways to approach a problem. 1. Stop seeing it as a problem. 2. Fix the problem (conform). 3. Accept the problem. 4. Stay whiny. I tend to vacillate between 1 and 3 (sigh sadly and order my tea online) but I spend little time engaging in #4 (bitching online about how it’s other people’s fault).

I’m not even going to look into your specific ideology. With people who say these things I often regret finding out.

This is what I’m saying! Maybe it’s like that game from rick and Morty. 1% chance you get a brain tumor, 1% chance you just get put in the wrong body in some way or other cuz fuck you that’s why.

How do you know you didn’t and you just happened to guess wrong? Like you were like oh “seems cool” then your neurons grew in mismatched.

No it’s because he’s too cheap to even hire a catering company and his first lady or first daughter or whoever isn’t even up to faking the whole party hostess part of that role by hiring an event planner to do it for her.

There is but you gotta think on your feet as it were and even then you don’t always succeed. When I was last hospitalized I knew my silicone laces were psych safe but I didn’t bother trying to explain it to the employee; I just asked if they could take them out. They poked at them for a few seconds before realizing and I got to wear my own shoes for the rest of my stay. You gotta give people juuust enough info to sneak the realization in there and it’s a suuuper hard (and moving) target to hit.

Yeah I’m worried about them

a) creating botnets that simulate grassroots political movements

b) as this user said, the joke about everybody having their own government agent was absurd because that level of attention given to an individuals activity was impossible. That’s about to be a lot less impossible.

At first I thought the mistake was the powdered creamer. I’ve worked in institutions basically my entire adult life and I’ve had all kinds of shit coffee and I’d rather just rawdog the boiled suggestion of coffee straight from the concentrate carton’s teat than fuck with that grittyass bullshit.

My tablet doesn’t support it I was so confused. I got a work laptop that I literally only use for teaching but I use it’s charger at home for everything that thing is a BEAST.

except they’re the ones holding the video and no cop who wants to continue being a cop is going to investigate anyone that could actually get them in real trouble. it’s been hard enough prosecuting anyone in the Epstein files despite TONS of evidence. how many people have fallen off balconies or just never came back from the yacht party that we don’t even know about?

Oh, yeah. It’s because In our historical environment it was actually super important to be able to do that. Even now its super handy sometimes. There was one time my foot had been fully down on the break for several seconds before I consciously realized I had seen the eyes of a deer in the bushes next to the road.

It’s actually a super important concept I teach in violence deescalation classes. Our human brain has a natural capacity for risk assessment you just need to learn to evaluate it properly. My two examples are:

• patient w/ dementia is asking a repetitive question. This makes me uneasy and I’m struggling to pin down why. After a bit I realize that if I was still working with criminally insane men, repetitive questioning means he’s not liking the answer he’s getting and trouble is coming. A dementia patient genuinely doesn’t remember asking. False alarm (but never call your brain stupid, always tell it thank you and make it a hot cup of tea or whatever your equivalent is).

• patient w/ severe Psychosis has a hair trigger. One day they slammed their body into the heavy hardwood exit door hard enough to crack it away from the maglock. About a week later I’m walking past them standing in the hall and my brain just started screaming at me that I needed to do something right that second so I went and pulled an ativan and offered it, which they were suspicious of but took. I was going to document that the patient looked tense, which was enough with how rapid their escalation pattern was, but when I sat down to document I also realized, they were staring at the door. If I’d waited a few minutes later they probably would have been doing something very dangerous and I would’ve had to do an injection and a physical hold which is so much more stressful and less safe for both them and us.

TLDR; there’s also a book called “The Gift of Fear.” Anxiety is not your enemy, but you do need to learn to ask it,“Why?” and you need to learn how to address your brain’s concerns in a way that’s safe and intelligent. And on a public scale there’s a LOT of people who will try to take advantage of your anxiety and you need to evaluate their motives very carefully.

I use clippers to shorten my pits and bush because my pit hair pulls in weird ways and my bush will mat with blood clots and it helps trap less smells in both but other than that yeah there’s no reason. I once had an A&P professor who went on a mini rant one class about how "the leg and arm hairs are for detecting the movement of fleas ticks and other parasites and how could women be asked to give up such protection? "

I bet at least one person was named UUUUUUURRRRR and he had two buddies named AAAAARRRRR and AAAACCCHK

I often use AI to break up my ADHD mono-sentence paragraph. I’ll stream of consciousness my reply then tell it to not change my wording but break up the excessively long sentences, and to reorder and split things into paragraphs that follow well. I’m still doing the writing, but having an advanced spell check is actually super useful.

Retirement was never a thing before the 50s or so. That’s why even at the time they had set it to roughly the average total lifespan. It was supposed to be a coinflip to begin with. And honestly one of the shared facets of societies where people routinely live to 100 is actually the lack of a concept of retirement. And part of that is that work isn’t something you either toil at physically for extended periods or being trapped behind a desk. It’s physical but not to excess and they have regular breaks at least weekly and plenty of holidays. You’re not supposed to grind grind grind for years then just stop. You’re supposed to have work that’s accessible and fulfilling that you can maybe slow down a little on with age but not just cut off at some point.

It’s nice to say things about people who have passed away

eh some people are abusive assholes who deserve to be remembered for it but sometimes a positive adult authority figure can help you process it in a healthier and more socially acceptable way that doesn’t piss the rest of the family off so you can make the informed decision to cut them all off as an adult after they’re done paying for your college. Eventually someone will have to step up and be the family asshole who says the ugly shit that needs to be said, but it’s not a responsibility that should be placed on a 16y/o.

lol you really tryna introduce debate etiquette to the comments section when you they also answered “but you…clearly…right?” implying certainty that I did, which you they were correct about. And now you also somehow wanna continue after someone already told you you said they were right by asking if internet slang is a form of textual chironomia.

I thought that was the obvious subtext of the statement but apparently did not adequately account for variations in reading comprehension.