• Absurdly Stupid @lemmy.worldEnglish
    2 hours

    Not having kids, every time I have any remorse I spend some time around kids and their parents, in about 5 minutes I’m good

    • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmy.ml
      42 minutes

      Same here, having watched how the lives of my friends who had kids changed reaffirmed the decision of not having any for me. You basically have to be prepared to dedicate next couple of decades of our life to raising kids and not doing much of anything else. And you end up giving up the freedom to do things like move to a different town or try a new career. Your primary goal becomes having stable income to raise your kids.

    • czl@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      2 hours

      Cons: you don’t know what you’re missing

      Pros: you don’t know what you’re not missing

    • fizzle@quokk.auEnglish
      1 hour

      I don’t begrudge anyone not wanting kids. It’s not for everyone.

      That said, my first thought when I saw the post title was “I don’t regret having kids”.

      I suppose the caveat is that my twins are only 2 and a half, I may well regret having kids when they start getting pregnant, selling drugs, marrying chat bots, that sort of thing.

      Edit: I just scrolled through some of the other comments and noticed that the majority of them say that they don’t regret not having kids. The fediverse is pretty homogenous I guess.

      • kindnesskills@literature.cafe
        35 minutes

        Were you told you would regret having your kids? That’s wild.

        It’s a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they’ll regret having them… so I think the similarities in the responses is quite natural, dont you? Not a lot of parents can answer this post with their kids in mind, but pretty much every voluntarily childless person can.

        • Velma@lemmy.today
          26 minutes

          I’ve certainly heard the sentiment from childfree people before. My late BIL used to call kids “demon spawn” and “crotch fruit” and loudly proclaim he would never have children because they’re such a drain physically and financially.

          There’s assholes everywhere unfortunately. I know childfree people frequently get pushed to have kids as well.

          • kindnesskills@literature.cafe
            11 minutes

            It’s just so rude to say someone will regret their choice regarding kids… BIL is free to make that choice for himself, and more than welcome to keep his mouth shut on your choice.

      • Velma@lemmy.today
        36 minutes

        Mine is older now and some parts of parenting are harder, but I still don’t regret having a kid.

        Having a kid actually reinforced my belief that only people who really want kids should have kids.

  • spittingimage@lemmy.world
    2 hours

    Not having kids. I have hobbies, and money/time for them.

    One of the previous popes called childless couples selfish. I say a never-married 70-year old operating the world’s largest paedophile welfare programme has nothing to say to me about child-rearing.

  • iamericandre@lemmy.world
    2 hours

    Getting tattoos. Parents, grandparents etc all said by the time you’re 30 you’ll hate them. Well I’m in my mid 30’s now and I still get new ones.

  • darthinvidious@lemmy.world
    1 hour

    I was told I would regret not enjoying and living up high school. To this day, still do not regret doing more with my shitty life in high school. College? Yeah, probably. High school? Nah