- 30 minutes
I’ve had almost the opposite experience, also decently embarrassing for me.
Thought I recognized some one from a work trip, we shake hands and they said it was nice to meet me, I asked didn’t we meet at X a couple months ago?
Nope, that was their boss, I’m just bad with faces. - 1 hour
It’s embarrassing for them, maybe. Why would it be embarrassing to you to not remember literally every person you’ve ever met? That’s an unreasonable expectation.
"You don’t remember me…? " implies the ego of the other person is stupidly inflated and that they are SO goddamned memorable that it’s implied you lost something by not remembering a brief interaction with them weeks, months, years ago. Sorry, but that’s total bullshit.
IRL, normal people don’t say that kind of shit and say “we met at the (whatever it was) a while ago.”
I had forgotten I met and had sex with the person who inspired the post.
- 1 hour
Ok, but were they terrible in bed? Was this recently? Were you blasted at the time? Still perfectly reasonable.
- 60 minutes
I do not remember, I wasn’t drunk but I smoked a lot of weed back then. It was 5 year prior.
- 2 hours
I have some prosopagnosia (face blindness), so this happens to me too much. Can cause a lot of social anxiety. And it’s made me look like a huge asshole sometimes when I’ve seen someone I know, outside of the usual context (at a grocery store instead of work). It’s a pain in my ass
- 2 hours
I’m not sure if you’ve already heard this a bunch, but it needs said often for anyone who has this experience:
People without face blindness constantly struggle to recognize and remember faces. The idea that most people recognize anyone and everyone they’ve previously met (and remember their names!) is a complete myth.
I’ve gotten really good at remembering names and faces though practice and techniques like writing down everyone I meet in a notes app, and I still have like a 60% success rate on second encounters after more than a week.
My solution for the other 40%? If I’m not totally confident someone is new to me, I introduce myself with “Hi! Apologies, have we met?”
Works great.
- 33 minutes
It’s good to mention, because often people will say “I’m really bad at remembering faces too!”, and it has kinda stopped me from mentioning it to anyone who isn’t very close with me already
I was dating a girl once, and she cut her hair short after about a year into our relationship. She came to surprise me at work, and I just stared at her blankly, wondering what this “customer” wanted. Until she said “hello?”, and I immediately recognized her voice
I’ve come to understand that my brain just doesn’t process faces the same, I recognize traits instead (a natural way to cope). I can recognize people from how they walk better than most, but the face by itself doesn’t really trigger any recognition. Hard to explain, but it’s a little more pronounced than just being bad at remembering faces
- 2 hours
It’s a dick move to say something like that to someone else, especially in a public setting.
I developed prosopagnosia (face blindness) after a brain injury in the military. As a rule I try not to bring up my work history, but that phrase pisses me off enough that I’ll let myself break the rule under those circumstances.
- 2 hours
Tell me about it, I have AuDHD and face blindness. You get used to being embarrassed.
- 3 hours
Meh. I’m a popular person. I meet a lot of people in my supremely satisfying social life. I’m super dooper cool. You must not have made an impression.
- 5 hours
“I have memory issues!” is true and generally people then apologize to me! As though they have me the memory issues!
I don’t think they did…
- THE_GR8_MIKE@lemmy.worldEnglish5 hours
“What did you drive?” usually throws them a bit. I can remember your car. I won’t remember you lol
I’ll remember their hair more than any other feature. All it takes it a hair cut sometimes and a person becomes a stranger.
- 5 hours
Who says “you don’t remember me do you?” Just tell them where you met.
- 6 hours
I don’t remember faces for shiiiiiit and tend not to pay attention to people at all.
Saying that to me earns you a blank stare and then I return to the reason I talk to you in the first place xD
- VitoRobles@lemmy.todayEnglish9 hours
I don’t think so. When you reach a certain age, it’s incredibly difficult to remember everything. I work in marketing. I’m making a rough estimate, but I’ve shook hands with at least 100,000 people (across twenty years of business conferences).
If I made quite the impression on someone to say that, my response is to show delight and apologize! I usually start with, “Ah I’m very sorry! Please, remind me of the time and place?”
Regardless of how they answer, I usually pivot to expanding the conversation. Let’s talk about “the now”. How are they now? Are they enjoying the event/location? What’s new that might be of interest?
- realitista@lemmus.orgEnglish9 hours
Yes working in sales this is near impossible. Meeting hundreds or thousands of people a year and then expecting to remember them again years later after having only met them once.
- 4 hours
So in my line of work I see/talk to a lot of people with somewhat meanigfull conversations (physiotherapy). So if one of my past patients talks with me on the street I usually tell them that I am horrible with names and ask them in return what condition they had. Usually narrows it down quite a bit.
- 7 hours
And it can instantly become creepy as fuck if followed by “Good, then it worked.”
- Lojcs@piefed.socialEnglish8 hours
Recently someone recognized me from a sports academy I went to 3 times when I was like 8. I’m trans. How tf
