• TTH4P@lemm.eeEnglish
    1 year

    I mean, if someone is making you feel this way then that’s a dealbreaker, no matter what’s going on of their end.

      • TTH4P@lemm.eeEnglish
        1 year

        I think your efforts and attentions are better focused elsewhere. If and when he expresses interest again, maybe you won’t even feel the same way you do now?

      • papelitofeliz@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1 year

        I don’t think he is being a jerk necessarily. it’s just incompatibility and a perfectly valid reason to end the relationship.

  • Scratch@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    1 year

    Whatever the case is, it sounds like your needs aren’t being met.

    Maybe you’re crazy, maybe you are clingy and overwhelming. If you haven’t messaged them and they haven’t messaged you in a day or two, that seems unlikely.

    Conjecture; Maybe this person is depressed, I know I am bad at communicating when I’m down, but that’s not your problem and they need to get themselves in a stable spot first before they consider dating. (Personal experience talking here)

    I would consider moving on, maybe they get back to you later with a really solid reason for being the way they are, but without a firm plan to change and give you what you need, it seems like a FWB situation at best.

  • sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1 year

    Not sure if this is still true, but when I was single I found dating to be a numbers game. If something didn’t seem like it was going anywhere, I moved along quickly. I would say it is safe to move along from this person and find someone (or many people) more responsive - especially if that’s a quality you want in a partner. Best of luck!

  • David_Eight@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1 year

    My motto when it comes to dating is.

    Figure out what the bare minimum amount of effort you need from the other person is. Tell them what that is, if they don’t meet that minimum, move on.

    Just text him “where you been?” Let him know you want more consistent contact. If nothing changes, end things. Maybe he thought the contact was enough, maybe this, maybe that but, why waste time thinking about it.