Asklemmy@lemmy.mlbyCrash@lemmy.ml
2 months

Whats your advice to the younger folks of Lemmy?

Mine:

  1. Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.
  2. The only opinions about you that really matter are from the people you respect and who respect you back
  3. Being a kind humble person, who leads their political convictions with curiosity and not self righteousness is important. As that one person said: “I am no hero and neither are you.”
  4. Don’t throw out your old media (mix cds, tapes, records, photos, zinee, etc) because you think they’re embarrassing. They either will not be embarrassing later or they will become expensive and you can tell them for mad bucks.
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    • Arcden@lemmy.zip
      2 months

      This life has no meaning. Absolutely none. Do what you enjoy. You don’t need a “purpose,” grind culture is toxic and will only lead to burnout. Slow down and listen to the birds sing.

        • absGeekNZ@lemmy.nzEnglish
          2 months

          Optimistic Nihilism, is quite a good philosophical framework.

          But I would recommend a mixture of optimistic nihilism and stoicism.

          If nothing has any inherent meaning, the things you chose to be meaningful are as valid as any other choice.

        • mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          2 months

          If you take nihilism far enough, you loop back around to absurdism instead. And that’s where things go from “why bother? Nothing matters so what is the point” to “why not? Nothing matters so I might as well enjoy life.”

      • Crash@lemmy.ml
        2 months

        do you think that you should do what you enjoy at the expense of another person? like (in an extreme example) to harm/assault/ hurt someone because you enjoy it?

        • TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world
          2 months

          I think hedonism is important, but it comes at a cost. The candle the burns twice as bright and all that. At the same time if you never fuck around, you’ll never find out.

          I think far too often young people go through life thinking they already know who they are, instead of treating life as an opportunity to find out who they are. They become calcified, ossified in their beliefs about their own identity, a constant and repeated telling themselves of who they are in an effort to believe these things.

          An alternative approach is to try to break down who you are, repeatedly and continuously. To try new things, to change the situation. Leave a city without warning and move somewhere you don’t know the language. Abandon your belongings, your phone, your identity and start over. Change the situation entirely. Begin to understand what is you and what is the world. If you move from place to place, and you find yourself always confronted by the same types of people, maybe you are seeing a reflection of something you are bringing with you from place to place.

          There is a very western identity of “knowing” who you are while simultaneously having done no exploration of who that person might be. I find it very curious.

        • Arcden@lemmy.zip
          2 months

          I don’t know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that’s because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community.

          However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same as others because you enjoy hurting people. But does that make your existence wrong? I don’t think so. To be honest I don’t think there is such a thing as wrong and right, just selfish and selfless behaviors.

          All this to say, I would say no and certainly don’t condone it, but if you ask someone else they may say yes. Who is to say that either one of us is right?

            • Arcden@lemmy.zip
              2 months

              But who defines them? If there is no god to determine that then that belief is entirely subjective. What one person views as good will be bad to another. How do you determine who is right?

    • Melobol@lemmy.ml
      2 months

      Keep learning new things.
      Learn cursive and develop your own handwriting.
      Writing down things physically makes learning way easier. And keeps your brain young - because, there is a reason why dementia is hitting some people in their 40s.

      Edit: brush your teeth and floss every day. If you don’t like to floss every day get a water flosser for those days.

      • TowardsTheFuture@lemmy.zipEnglish
        2 months

        I’ll add: take care of your teeth cuz they’re expensive, and learn to cook before you move out.

        • tacocollector2@lemmy.blahaj.zone
          2 months

          Both of these can be outsourced though. You can replace your teeth, and order takeout. You can’t replace your body or your mind.

          But in general I agree with you.

    • Hanrahan@slrpnk.netEnglish
      2 months

      don’t listen to your elders, they’re the dipshits that have the planet in this mess politically and particularly ecologically, they don’t know shit.

    • Melllvar@startrek.websiteEnglish
      2 months

      Start saving for old age now. It might seem like a long way off, and you might not have much money right now to begin with, but being young and poor is way better than being old and poor.

    • AmbitiousProcess (they/them)@piefed.socialEnglish
      2 months

      Don’t make trends your identity.

      You don’t want to look back on your life and all the photos you have of yourself, just to realize every fashion choice, purchase, event you went to, and way you talked was all because it was seen as cool, trendy, or “normal.”

      Live your life in a way that feels right and true to who you are, and what your values are, not what anybody else things is “right” for you to do.

    • hbar@lemmy.ml
      2 months

      It’s way easier getting in shape young. Don’t put it off.

    • CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org
      2 months

      Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.

      Languages are the one thing that gets harder as you get older. Kinda why immersion schooling seems like a decent idea, even if it delays other skills a bit.

    • moonshadow@slrpnk.net
      2 months

      KILL YOUR MASTERS

      If you fear dying you’re already dead. Always for love, never from fear. A better world is possible. Coconut oil is a 1:1 butter substitute that’s both cheaper and better for you

      • CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org
        2 months

        Other plant oils are even better yet, if you don’t insist on the consistency. Except peanut, maybe? I forget.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
      2 months

      Don’t let your curiosity fade

      Maintain open minded compassion for those different from you

      Never be fully convinced you understand the best way to do anything

      In disputes between the affected and the unaffected give added weight to the most affected

      Learn to recognize a moral panic, and even if you have concerns related to it don’t join in. It’s the group dynamic equivalent of spiraling and catastrophizing.

      Don’t drink your calories unless you want to gain weight

    • cookiemonster@beehaw.org
      2 months

      Do your best. Make the best choice you can and consciously decide against second-guessing yourself later. Feel free to learn about yourself from any inclination to second-guess, it could be your morals chaffing against your actions.

      Be kind. To those you love and those you don’t. Give yourself some grace when imperfections monopolize your focus.

      Learn about yourself. It’s going to be a lot easier to make decisions when you know yourself.