I just found out about JADE, “don’t justify, argue, defend, explain” and I could use it with my dispatcher, an older man who’s been there longer than me and feels entitled to act like my manager.

We work with wifi based smartphones which are not reliable and slow. Sometimes I have to upgrade android myself because the employee in charge of doing that simply doesn’t. Every day the devices hang, meaning communication with the dispatcher is not possible, nor can I phone in (wifi based), nor can I check the task phase I am currently in (if the task is about to be done, if it’s being done, if it’s been done). When this happens, to avoid wasting time I simply do the job and then click through, something that seems to irritate this dispatcher extremely. Sometimes I get an urgent order, not through the smartphone but given verbally. When this happens I don’t wait for the task to appear on my device, something that can last 15 minutes, but simply tell the coworker who gave me the order to type it in the database, do the task and then click through. This also pisses this dispatcher off.

There are 8 dispatchers I work with. Only this one is the problematic one: he likes to ask per chat if the smartphone works ok, to which I answer it works like everyday: with broken wifi, the application hanging, black spots with no reception…

His answer is always: the smartphone works, which pisses me off, because it’s not true and he just won’t listen.

I get so angry thinking about it because it’s like working with an inflexible person incapable of showing empathy, unwilling to learn, who blames me for things I cannot control.

I already had a conversation with my union rep and with my manager about this but it seems I’ll have to contact my rep again.

How would you use JADE here? blatantly ignoring him each time he asks if my device works?

Should I bluntly write back: Mr A, we’ve had this conversation several times already and it doesn’t make any sense to talk to you because you’re way too deep in your biases and you don’t listen. Should you have any complains about my work, talk to our manager. Now, please, let me do my job.

I don’t know how to deal with this person.

I don’t like her romantically and want nothing sexual with her either. She acts desperate to talk to me, won’t get into more details.

I could act busy each time she approaches me, and avoid her as much as I can but I don’t know if I should tell my manager about this. I don’t even know what I’d tell a manager: “I’m informing that I want nothing to do with X and I’m going to keep my conversations with her to a minimum”?

Another idea: be boring as f*ck.

Do I tell her friends I don’t like her?

Ideally I could tell her directly I’m not interested / I don’t befriend coworkers (not true but it would work to soften the blow), but I simply don’t know how defensive she’s gonna get, laugh it off or accuse me of playing games.

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/4052877

don’t give me the it’s never too late bs. Life happens, people have jobs, debts and rent to pay.

Going back to school when you’re employed means debt, earning way less or nothing during your bachelor or master, stress, opportunities you’re not aware of because you’re simply not at your workplace anymore, unpaid overtime during those 2 to 3 years… the money you lose is more than what the bachelor / accreditation costs.

When does it start being a stupid idea? Is it when you’re 30? 40? 50?

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3848527

from a, a coworker and b, a manager.

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3587385

I don’t mean only the US but in much of the world: in many European countries the populist far right is unseating Christian-Democratic parties (conservative parties), like in Hungary, Slovakia or Czechia. In others like Germany or France the far right is at the gates of power, in the UK, Reform UK is running high in the polls. In Turkey autocratic Erdogan is copying the Putin playbook to systematically dismantle the social-democratic opposition. In Japan, a neo Thatcherite that doesn’t hide she honors Japanese war criminals is about to become the new PM.

Something common I see in all these parties is strong disaffection with the current state of their countries and a longing to an idealized past they promise to bring back, to make countries great again…

Except that societies have changed beyond recognition in the last 40 years, emerging China, India, Mexico and a myriad of south east Asian countries can produce cheaper than us in the developed countries, so called first world democracies are now much older and indebted than 40 years ago (no wonder societies have shifted so hard to the right), buying a house is now waaaay more expensive than 40 years ago, you cannot earn a livable wage just assembling toasters like 40 years ago, you just cannot roll automation and digitization back, no matter how much you complain…

The past cannot come back, neither will it come back just because some people want it to. It’s completely futile, but people are not rational about this, they’re completely emotional and tribal.

It’s like a huge, collective effort in denial: denying that we in the developed world are older, not the first ones in the world anymore, that other countries we always considered inferior to us are even surpassing us technologically while we complain and hope for a savior that brings us 40 years back when we, the white guys, ruled all over.

I don’t see it happening: being angry and voting the far right may make some people feel good, it may make them feel they’re somehow taking their country back, but it’s not going to stop China, India and other countries from developing, investing in new technologies and even creating trade alliances that bypass the US or the EU.

My question: was there a moment in history where societies were so shifted to the right like today? How long did it last?

obligatory I’m a German nurse living in Germany, but the German channels on lemmy don’t have as many members as this one, so I ask here.

When I work I like to do my job and then relax. To me, doing it the other way round is just stupid. I was never the kind of person that goes to work to socialize, I don’t need it and I strongly resent forced socialization.

For the last 2 years I’ve worked within the same hospital system and it’s clear to me now, nobody thinks like me: all my coworkers spend the first hour of the shift talking about their private lives, as they were looking for excuses not to work and expect anyone else to take care of patients. And because I’m the only one with this job mentality, it’s always me the one who works while the rest do nothing.

This is very frustrating and I’m now applying elsewhere, but it bothers me that my new workplace can turn out to be like this.

I’m also applying for office positions (no shifts) and wonder: does this happen there as well? Ideally I’d be completely responsible for my work alone.

I feel like a student at school again, when the teacher forced me to work in a group with the lazier ones and I ended up either doing most of the job or became as lazy as them. Why work when they don’t?

I don’t want to work with people who slow me down.

a normal shift to me means not having a 30 minute pause, but being constantly moving. If you are lucky, you can pause for 3 minutes and drink coffee or juice when nobody is looking.

I finish every shift with sore muscles. Am I the only one?