We do have a mutual promise that we don’t restrict what the other watch, especially over porn. But at this rate and under this political climate it worries me when all he watches is J. Peterson and Asm*ngold.
Recently, he’s planning to ditch his 9-5 to get into streaming. I understand following your dreams instead of working hard to make some capitalists rich but streaming has become oversaturated as hell. With Twitch being a cesspool and Kick being the place where troublemakers have free reign, I worry he will get involved with the wrong crowd.
To top it off, he keeps talking about women having to do the same work as men do in the name of equality, to which I agree. But when I question how he is going to do his fair share of responsibilities if he gets nothing from streaming, he suggests me being the breadwinner until he makes it big. This is the same man who said men paying for women’s education is a dumb move because she would end up leaving him in the end.
I feel like he is just using me for sex and a future financial support. Is there anything I can even do to tell him what he’s been doing is really concerning to me?
A pessimistic scenario:
The stereotype suggests he’ll mooch off you until he makes it big, which will never happen.
Desperate for fame, he’ll spiral downwards parroting soundbites from J Peterson and the like, perhaps amassing a small following in the process, which will feed his ego and have him start believing he’s on the right track.
He’ll start treating you worse, complain you’re not home often enough to cater to his needs and start putting your achievements down.
If things don’t go his way, then the system, the woke or whatever’s popular to hate on now will be to blame and he’ll become a true believer of whatever shit he’s spouting.
Streaming or online life changes your perception of reality. It places you in a box interacting with other boxes, which in a way is comfortable and safe. The outside world on the other hand becomes increasingly distant and dangerous.
The separation makes it easy to fall into divergent strings of thought because there’s no pushback to counter them. J Peterson speeches and the like are a one-way stream of persuasion. They hold the goal of enticing. And without something to interact in a way which says “that’s bullshit and here’s why”, they eventually start making sense - as there’s nothing else to say otherwise.
Online life is an illusion that has to be grounded in reality. And if your partner chooses it over you, then I’d recommend you consider choosing yourself as a fallback.