Don’t get me wrong, he (17M) doesn’t have to enjoy everything I (18F) like, but he always talks about how much he hates my stuff.
I don’t like his stuff all the time, I like reading and he doesn’t for example. However, he doesn’t like a lot of things, and a post reminded me of this. He has to complain about how he doesn’t like it and how he doesn’t wanna watch stuff with me and how he doesn’t like this stuff and how he’s 17, so he’s so mature and can’t watch my “kid stuff”.
Y’all are still young and figuring yourselves out. Have fun with your relationship, and if you can’t, maybe try to find someone you do have fun with. 😊
Thank you for not being like “DUMP HIM AND BLOCK HIM!!!”
Someone who treats you and your likes as insignificant is not a significant other. Stop wasting your time with them and find someone that appreciates you for you.
(17M)
There it is. That’s the issue. One’s teenage years are a time of figuring out one’s identity, and a huge helping of insecurity about it. He’s giving away the game by claiming to be so mature.
Spoiler: He desperately wants to be seen by others as mature, but he doesn’t feel it inside yet.That’s why he makes a big show of rejecting “kid stuff.” Nobody needs to point out what’s obvious about themselves, so if he felt mature, he wouldn’t need to say it.
He’ll get there eventually. In the mean time, he’s hurting your feelings. Tell him that, in plain words, like, “Badmouthing the things that I like makes me feel bad. It makes me wonder why you’re with me. You don’t have to like them, but please accept the fact that I do like these things, and keep any criticism to yourself.”
I think it’s fine to have different interests in a relationship, but maybe you should have a conversation with him about how he communicates those opinions. It can be hurtful to hear someone you care about complain about your hobbies, even if he’s not doing so with the intention of hurting your feelings. Maturity involves respecting other people, and that includes allowing others to enjoy things without shaming them. That said, if you know he doesn’t like a lot of the same things as you, it’s probably better to focus on the interests that you know you have in common while probing out other compatible interests.
