crosspostato da: https://thelemmy.club/post/35017645

so, i’ve already talked a lot about sophie, my recent ex. now i’m asking for advice on her. basically, i really liked her but she was taking more than giving and it wasn’t really 50/50. i discovered (and so did she) she was aromantic and didn’t actually like me that way and that’s why she refused to be romantic with me and even seemed repulsed by it. (the idea of being romantic), yet she flirts with others and jokes about kissing them just fine and did that in our “relationship” and right after we broke up. now, she wants to continue being with me in a “talking stage” because she “really likes me” and hopes she can get to know me better “as friends”.

here’s the thing: my feelings for this guy eric are resurfacing. should i continue being in an ambiguous friendship with someone who only recently discovered what she wanted and still doesn’t know or just be completely, unambiguously, friends and later pursue eric in the future?

should i also be concerned that she can’t flirt with her own girlfriend but makes very sexual jokes about other people while in a relationship?