cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/26365993

I’m the quiet, introverted one and I may be on the spectrum. I like to do my job and go home. I hate drama and drama queens and ignore people when they start gossiping. Many extroverts find that offensive and talk behind my back like teenagers do. This stupid drama is the only reason why I quit my job after finding a new one.

I agreed to stay 4 weeks with the company because some coworkers are actually grown ups, it is a breeze to work with them and I can use their experience to be a better professional.

Back to the immature ones: Past me would ignore their sarcastic and passive aggressive comments, which took a toll on me but now I have nothing to lose and I couldn’t care less what they think of me, meaning I started to answer back using their same tone and so sarcastically and passive aggressively as them: they yell at me accusing of doing something on purpose, I politely tell them to calm down and to seek help.

Most of my coworkers are women. Since I started answering back and being a jerk, they toned their b%tchiness way down, it is more pleasant to work here now.

I don’t understand why my coworkers treat me with some respect now that I’m being a jerk and I hate I have to be a jerk to be treated with a modicum of respect. I don’t know if I’m wrong but I think they have an idea of what a man is supposed to be and now that I fit their definition of a man, they leave me alone because they see in me something familiar to them.

I find it sad I have to be an ass to be treated with respect and I hope to find a workplace where I can be myself and work with no drama.

Is this something that’s going to happen no matter where I work?

  • umbrella@lemmy.ml
    1·
    4 hours ago

    but at least there’s communication and connection

    wait, so i’m forced to interact with crappy people if i want to be left alone? why would they take offense in you just wanting nothing with them?

    • sarah2653@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
      2·
      1 hour ago

      why would they take offense in you just wanting nothing with them?

      I still don’t get it, but they’re this needy, apparently

    • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
      4·
      3 hours ago

      They take offense because “wanting nothing from them” implies that they have nothing to offer. Even if this is true, it’s still rude to imply.

      And yeah, pretty much the only way to get needy conversationalists off your back is to throw them a bone once in a while, even if it’s only a “ooh that’s rough, but whatcha gonna do?” or a “not bad, yourself?”

      • sarah2653@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
        1·
        1 hour ago

        They take offense because “wanting nothing from them” implies that they have nothing to offer.

        but some of them do have something to offer: job experience and know how, but they fixate on gossiping and badmouthing other coworkers when they’re not around.