Discord cut ties with its age-verification partner after exposed code fueled federal-reporting concerns, months after a breach hit 70,000 users.
Discord distances itself from Peter Thiel–backed verification software after its code was found on a U.S. government server | Fortune
fortune.comDiscord used at least three separate age-verification vendors since October after a third-party vendor breach hit 70,000 users.
Matrix might be worth a try too. It’s kind of like a modernized IRC with limited discord-like functionality.
Stoat also seems pretty good, though it’s more centralized than I’d like.
I think stoat would be viable of they had voice chat working with their self hosting option but yeah, right now it’s a no for me because of that.