Lol, I made a similar mistake asking for hot salsa at a restaurant. Mild salsa arrived warmed up from the microwave. Picante was what I should have used.

Wait, you all get paid?!

My recruiter told me this was entirely a volunteer position.

This is essentially the same story with my in laws. MIL is gone. FIL is getting angrier day by day without her to be his bullshit caller. He won’t behave himself when he’s 1 on 1 with my husband. It’s tearing my husband to pieces.

And he’s barely still able to live on his own. He’s been hospitalized 3 times in the 10 months since MIL passed. I noticed that if we have more contact with him, he does better, we catch things and can intervene. But if we go low contact because of hateful behavior then we get blindsided by a hospital trip where we drop everything and screw our schedules all up to deal with his illness & recovery.

It fucking sucks. I think I’ve started treating him as I would a dementia patient just to be able to be around him. I like another poster’s tactic of declaring something batshit “seems meanspirited”. Maybe it will curb the worst of it. Who knows.

I’m sorry for you, me, anyone who struggles with whether to sever contact with a (formerly or currently) loved one.

• Steel drums do this for me
• Oboes
• some brass instruments (depends on the player…if they can achieve that crystal clear tone)
• Taiko ensembles!
• if live, mandolin, dulcimer, lute

Edit 1: The venue acoustics will also factor heavily too.

Edit 2: ooh! Didgeridoos! Also best if live.

In an ICU room. I was the visitor. The patient had dozed off. I had a client wanting reports for a board meeting. Finance does not pause for family emergencies.

When the opportunity presents itself, you Milk it!

Btw, LOVE your user name! I call my trusty roadies sippy cups too. I have a shoe organizer full hanging on the pantry door. It’s hard to resist an ultra cute sippy cup.

Calling “Will It Blend”…!

Perhaps, but I would be too hard on glass bottles while I’m adventuring.

These were free swag though at a volunteer thank you party. I’m only upset that I can no longer covertly signal to the other local volunteers that I’m part of the club. 😄

I just spent a few days sitting with my FIL in hospital. We binged Gunsmoke. I am a reluctant fan of Festus now.

• do they have you scheduled for any sight-seeing like CT or MRI scans?
• can you order UberEats to your room? I watched them come and go frequently and wondered if it was for employees, inmates, or both
• do you ask all the nurses for crunchy ice?
• have you asked that one nurse for a bed bath?
• are most of the nurses pregnant like they were at my hospital? Wtf is in the water?!