adhd_traco

Talked with a friend today and casually mentioned the book, and she got furious and mentioned a bunch of problems with the book and the author. I advise people to look for criticism about this book before using it. The only specific thing I’ll point out here is this:

“In 2019, a group of certified NVC trainers published a #MeToo statement honouring Marshall Rosenberg’s legacy but also acknowledging he had slept with students at some times of his life.”

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marshall_Rosenberg

• sense8

• slow horses

• The boys & gen-v

• Arrested Development

• The Last of Us

• Rabbit Hole

Only ones I can think of at the moment that haven’t been mentioned

If you want to leave her, I think that’s what you should do. Her actions as a result of your boundaries are not your responsibility. She has her needs, and you have yours. You are not her therapist. You can still say this in a respectful manner, doing your part. How she reacts is her part.

My “ex”, that is someone I told from the start I’m not sure about this, which she said she was okay with, but then started calling it a relationship, also used self-harm and a bunch of manipulative stuff. She also had heavy BPD, which helped me understand some of her actions better. I don’t blame her for the manipulation and everything, but I simply have my boundaries too. So when I broke things off as respectfully and considerately as possible, she went on a self-destructive binge for a couple of weeks. We became friends for a while afterwards. And she told me how much the “break-up” had hurt her, and asked me if I’d feel guilty had she killed herself. I would feel absolutely terrible. But I’d know it wouldn’t have been my fault. Which she agreed with. I mean, for me at least, what’s the alternative? Both of us living a vapid relationship that has no roots, out of fear?

The way I see it, no matter how bad things are, it won’t distract me from the fact that every good thing matters. If not for me, if not for other people, then people who will come after. I’m only one person, but at least trying to do my part and being grateful for the things I have and receive, be it friends, a bed, food, a roof, a fun moment. And I can still accept the terrible state of so many things also.

Or in the words of David Graeber: “The ultimate hidden truth of the world is that it is something that we make, and could just as easily make differently.”

Pretty sure Wireguard is better in most regards than openvpn. But I also have no idea what you use the VPN for, or why not just use Mullvad.

I’d replace the default text-messaging app with QUIK or something (also allows you to block people who you otherwise cant block).

And replace Ace Attorney with Wrath Of The Gods ;)

https://anidb.net/ maybe?