Why is this NSFW?

The search requests are being made on my behalf on the host (in my case, the hetzner VPS).

I host my searxng instance on a hetzner vps so my ip is not leaked anywhere.

The best is to self host your own SearXNG metasearch engine.

Grayjay still works and is being actively maintained. They also support other platforms like PeerTube and Odysee, which you can easily enable.

https://grayjay.app/

If you can get a invite code, sure. Or you also can try out Disroot.

I personally pay for Posteo (1 euro/mo).

LibreOffice, rise!

Yes, instances can defederate with each other. lemmy.ml defederated with lemmynsfw.com, which is why you don’t see these posts.

You can try my instance, discuss.tchncs.de, as far as I see, they federate with lemmynsfw.com.

Do refrain from joining big instances, like lemmy.world, as they are currently dominating the Lemmyverse.