so im kind of a mess. just turned 15 yesterday, mentally ill, just got checked out at the doctor for bulimia and trying to eat without gagging myself, and lgbt. i am nonbinary fem and pansexual :,) do you have any advice for me? life can be hard, especially for someone like me imo.
Given that you’re underage, I’m going to lock this thread before it gets weird.
I hope you can find the community and support you need, especially if it is offline.
Get off the internet and find IRL help. Be that family, friends, and/or a mental health professional. The latter is highly recommended though.
Yes, social media will not improve your life. Seek real life friendships and lean into them.
Also don’t announce you’re a minor on the internet.
Also you should talk to a real human adult you can trust about these things, like a parent or a teacher or school counselor or doctor, not the internet. The internet on average will not have your best interests at heart.
I’ve never understood trying to get help from strangers on the internet. Yeah you might find some decent folks with real advice and help, but generally I wouldn’t bet on it.
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I don’t know if you have tinnitus, but I figure it can’t hurt to know this. I’m not qualified to give life advice.
Never take random advice from strangers on the internet.
The adults around you don’t expect anything more from you than for you to be a teenager. When I was a teenager, I spent a lot of time comparing myself to others. Because many teenagers are smarter, more diligent, accomplished, friendly, etc. that no one would ever want to pick me. When really all anyone wants from you is for you to be on time, polite, and ready to learn. They’ll figure out something for you to do. Every adult around you was once a teenager who knew nothing until someone showed them how to do a job.
Even without all the stuff you’ve got going on, 15 is often a tough age. Very few people have themselves figured out at that age. So my biggest piece of advice is to do your best, but don’t expect to everything to make sense, and don’t beat yourself up when life is messy. It’s just the way it is.
Find a real life community, people who you identify with
Look for the other outcasts. Form a posse and be unapologetically weird, protect each other, and most of all, support each other.
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Therapy.
It’s time to get into a band called The Mountain Goats
If you’re trans, get on HRT as soon as you can. Most of the effects are not irreversible within just a few weeks, and if you have biochemical dysphoria that it alleviates that would be really great to know - also the younger you start HRT the better effects it can have and needs less surgery/money/dysphoria later. If you’re cisfem though, you can disregard this.
I’m gonna disagree. At 15, I’m absolutely fine with you wanting to be a different gender, but your body and brain have a long way to go before they are fully developed and adding chemicals isn’t something I can get behind. In the same way that avoiding peanuts is linked to causing peanut allergies, at 15 your body generally knows what to do. There are certainly edge cases that a qualified doctor can advise on, but I’d caution against adding to the crazy mix of hormones that are already racing through any 15 year old’s body.
Dont take spironolactone (it fucked up my kidneys). If you want tits, take pure estradiol.
Don’t take medical advice that doesn’t come from a doctor.
(Did you take spironolactone for Hyperaldosteronism, or just for the breasts. Because those side effects look horrible)
Hey person, my licensed doctors told me I was supposed to put my entire weekly dosage of estradiol on every Monday. So there, doctors are not infallible.
Oh, is this a common occurrence with spiro? I heard it once from a stranger in a bar, but I’ve never heard it elsewhere until now.
