PorradaVFR

No. Just no.

She’s in the midst of a divorce and almost certainly not ready for that.

You admit concerns about compatibility but way more than that claim you’d change who you are for them.

No.

That will NEVER work out well. Love comes from people who love who you are, not who you can try to be.

The bond you have is lovely, let her dust settle and the storm to pass - once there is “normal” life see if you still feel the same. Crisis and trauma can push people together but perhaps for the wrong reasons.

Good luck. I hope you both find happiness.

Elian lost his mother coming here and was living with relatives in Miami. His Cuban father (rightfully, in my opinion) wanted him back. His family here reasonably argued that his mother’s last act was to bring him to the US and hence he should remain.

The legal battle and ultimate decision he was to be sent back traumatized an innocent kid, but it’s not the same. The US was in the middle of a family fight where both sides were asserting viable arguments and the kid was a pawn. I don’t see that being a US policy mistake.