I’m not really into trans people, so I only date cis men. Not trans men, not nonbinary people, and not women of any kind. However, my former boyfriend is now my girlfriend, and IDK how to tell her I don’t like women without her taking it the wrong way.
I wrote:
Hey, L,
I know you’re probably asleep, but I kind of needed to talk about something. I want you to know that I fully support you coming out as trans. I think it’s good that you’re finally your true self. However, I wanted to say that I’m straight. I’m, unfortunately, not that into women, which you are. I’m sorry, it’s just my preference. Know, please, that we can still be friends and I can support your true womanly self along the way, but I’m not interested in women and I can’t keep dating someone and lying about how I feel.
I hope you understand, E 🙂
Have you been dating long? Something strikes me as odd that you would eschew your entire relationship because your partner now identifies as a woman.
She still has the same personality, the same quirks that you fell in love with, no?
It just seems weird that her gender would supersede the relationship you built together.
I’m seeing your message to her, and what I see is you taking the easy way out of this relationship: you’re a girl, I don’t like them. You’re rejecting her for the one thing she can’t help, problem solved.
If you really want to end this relationship, then I would recommend you think about how you’re feeling right now and be honest with yourself, and then be honest with her, about the real reason you’re ending this relationship.
This is a pretty nonconsensual take don’t you think? If OPs partner were into men instead of women would she have to stay in the relationship?
It doesn’t have to be black and white. This is something you discuss together, to see where each partner stands and where the relationship will go moving forward.