How do you warn people about a potential dating candidate being dangerous without doxxing the potential dating candidate? “Hey, watch out for [anonymous person]” doesn’t sound very useful.
I have the solution. Nobody’s gonna like it, everybody here is gonna scream at me about it, but I have the solution.
Stop dating strangers on the internet.
The entire personals site/dating app experiment we’ve been running for the last quarter century is obviously a categorical failure. Humans just don’t work like this.
Things have gotten so much worse since I was in high school. When I was in high school, the community of girls available to me to ask out were pretty much all girls I’d known since we were 5. A lot of them, I didn’t have to wonder about their character, their intentions, their capacity to do harm, I was there when all that was written. I remember how much of a bully Chelsea was in middle school, I remember how nice Ashley was to everyone, I remember how Justine seemed weirdly infatuated with me in the 4th grade. They’d all remember stuff about me and the other boys. We graduated high school, I never saw 80% of them ever again, and within 5 years that figure climbed to at least 95%. Four years of college with mostly abject strangers who you’re weirdly fast to form and break deceptively deep bonds with, all of whom I’ve also lost track of, and then the adult world in which everyone including you is an NPC.
I happen to be the exact age where, I got out of college in 2007, I disappeared into work, like I went to the airport and I went home for two years. In 2009, I looked back up and everything had CHANGED. Instant messaging was on smart phones now, and you WERE NOT TO approach women in person, only through phone-based dating apps and you had BETTER FUCKING NOT already be acquainted.
Don’t talk to women at the grocery store. Don’t talk to women at the gym. Don’t talk to women at the library. Don’t talk to women at your work. Don’t talk to women at their work. Don’t talk to women at the coffee shop. Don’t talk to women at the bar. Don’t talk to women at the club. Don’t talk to women. No woman, only app.
How do you meet more women? Oh that’s categorically the wrong question because having the goal of meeting women in the first place is creepy. Stop wanting to meet women and instead organically decide you want to do things that women happen to like, and then accidentally meet women in the course of doing those things. You know, at those meetups that are always happening on a recurring basis, that aren’t advertised to happen at a place and time and then no one shows up and the listing is never re-posted. Probably just install more apps.
It’s been women driving this, men vastly prefer asking women out from within their social circle. The pressure to make the first move is still on men, and he’d rather ask out women he already thinks he might like. Women on the other hand vastly prefer to be cold approached by a charming stranger.
I think it’s gone far enough when we’ve got women saying dumb shit like “Systematically doxxing and libeling men is a risk we’re just going to have to take.”
Yeah, the entire point of the app is that you go there and talk about the bad things a person has done.
That seems pretty hard to identify them without posting their image without their consent and discussing private details of their life so others can identify them. It is creepy as hell, at a minimum.
How does this app even work?
You sign up and then a while later, your personal information gets leaked to the public. Not sure what its other purpose is.
That’s corporate social media/apps in general. Does this thing basically let people list crappy things that happened to them by specific humans?
It’s basically a slander app, from what I can tell.
it seems its an app that helps women flag potential dating candidates as being dangerous or red flags.
there is the potential for doxxing that comes with that, but I can absolutely understand its use and need when not abused in that manner.
i wonder if there’s the potential for a different app with more encryption and a way to prevent doxxing and abuse.
How do you warn people about a potential dating candidate being dangerous without doxxing the potential dating candidate? “Hey, watch out for [anonymous person]” doesn’t sound very useful.
…you know? that’s a fair point. I’m not sure how it would work. but it would be nice to know some stuff if its important.
I have the solution. Nobody’s gonna like it, everybody here is gonna scream at me about it, but I have the solution.
Stop dating strangers on the internet.
The entire personals site/dating app experiment we’ve been running for the last quarter century is obviously a categorical failure. Humans just don’t work like this.
Things have gotten so much worse since I was in high school. When I was in high school, the community of girls available to me to ask out were pretty much all girls I’d known since we were 5. A lot of them, I didn’t have to wonder about their character, their intentions, their capacity to do harm, I was there when all that was written. I remember how much of a bully Chelsea was in middle school, I remember how nice Ashley was to everyone, I remember how Justine seemed weirdly infatuated with me in the 4th grade. They’d all remember stuff about me and the other boys. We graduated high school, I never saw 80% of them ever again, and within 5 years that figure climbed to at least 95%. Four years of college with mostly abject strangers who you’re weirdly fast to form and break deceptively deep bonds with, all of whom I’ve also lost track of, and then the adult world in which everyone including you is an NPC.
I happen to be the exact age where, I got out of college in 2007, I disappeared into work, like I went to the airport and I went home for two years. In 2009, I looked back up and everything had CHANGED. Instant messaging was on smart phones now, and you WERE NOT TO approach women in person, only through phone-based dating apps and you had BETTER FUCKING NOT already be acquainted.
Don’t talk to women at the grocery store. Don’t talk to women at the gym. Don’t talk to women at the library. Don’t talk to women at your work. Don’t talk to women at their work. Don’t talk to women at the coffee shop. Don’t talk to women at the bar. Don’t talk to women at the club. Don’t talk to women. No woman, only app.
How do you meet more women? Oh that’s categorically the wrong question because having the goal of meeting women in the first place is creepy. Stop wanting to meet women and instead organically decide you want to do things that women happen to like, and then accidentally meet women in the course of doing those things. You know, at those meetups that are always happening on a recurring basis, that aren’t advertised to happen at a place and time and then no one shows up and the listing is never re-posted. Probably just install more apps.
It’s been women driving this, men vastly prefer asking women out from within their social circle. The pressure to make the first move is still on men, and he’d rather ask out women he already thinks he might like. Women on the other hand vastly prefer to be cold approached by a charming stranger.
I think it’s gone far enough when we’ve got women saying dumb shit like “Systematically doxxing and libeling men is a risk we’re just going to have to take.”
it also lists criminal history that might not be disclosed on a dating profile. and other information that might be a red flag.
Regardless of the actual truth of that information.
indeed. there’s the potential for abuse and doxxing. but I think the app could be done in a safe way. and with much less leakery.
How would you implement the app in its current concept, without the possibility for abuse? It seems inherent to the very idea of it.
Yeah, the entire point of the app is that you go there and talk about the bad things a person has done.
That seems pretty hard to identify them without posting their image without their consent and discussing private details of their life so others can identify them. It is creepy as hell, at a minimum.
So, like the Chinese national merit system? That’s super fair and nothing ever goes wrong.
the what? i am not familiar with that.