She took a perfectly fine point (toys can be used in sex and enrich the play)…and then formulated in a way that would indeed be off-putting to plenty of guys.

Toys should not become LeBron James of your sex, “earning more points” and leaving partner on the sideline. They should be useful assistants at reaching the peak pleasure.

As long as the point is “my partner can drive me even hornier with this” - it is super healthy and great. But when the toy itself becomes the focus, it’s not great. She could masturbate much to the same success.