Depression is the worst sort of trap because the disease prevents you from seeking the cure. Men have fewer friends, fewer relationships, weaker social support networks, and a greater social stigma against seeking help.
Very recently I’ve read at least 2 posts on Lemmy by men who opened up about a nerdy interest and about mental illness. Both faced rather severe rejection from their peers.
A lot of this rejection of course comes from other men. But it’s not on an individual man to convince their friends not to reject them for opening up.
So if we take your declaration in that light, what it amounts to saying is that men all need to simultaneously start acting differently than we’ve always acted. But you can say that about a lot of problems in society.
The prevailing attitude among men definitely seems to be “Toughen up!” Both for those with mental issues, and those non-proffesional men they open up to.
Yeah, talking about mental health needs to be normalized. But I feel a shift is slowly coming.On Instagram I see male therapist talking about how to work on your relationships, and one of the bigger ones have 3.9 million followers
I know at least two of my male friends that are seeing psychologists at the moment. I’ve also had 4 sessions in December. My wife and I have also had some couples therapy sessions over the last 3 or 4 years. When I talk about couples therapy to my married friends many actually get curious about it. I compare it to getting your car serviced. You get help fixing minor problems, before they cause bigger issues
Women are not necessarily the cause of men’s issues. I don’t see how soldiers with PTSD or untreated mental issues are women’s to solve.
A lot of issues are self-inflicted, men tend to think problems go away if you ignore them, or even worse, are oblivious to the problems. Especially in relationships. Luckily talking about mental load is becoming more common, and the smarter men, who were oblivious to that issue are stepping up. Relationships take work, also for men. If us men aren’t doing our part, I can easily see why women choose to leave.
Men need to step up and talk about their problems. Talk to your friends, go to therapy
Depression is the worst sort of trap because the disease prevents you from seeking the cure. Men have fewer friends, fewer relationships, weaker social support networks, and a greater social stigma against seeking help.
Very recently I’ve read at least 2 posts on Lemmy by men who opened up about a nerdy interest and about mental illness. Both faced rather severe rejection from their peers.
A lot of this rejection of course comes from other men. But it’s not on an individual man to convince their friends not to reject them for opening up.
So if we take your declaration in that light, what it amounts to saying is that men all need to simultaneously start acting differently than we’ve always acted. But you can say that about a lot of problems in society.
Luckily I’ve never had depression.
The prevailing attitude among men definitely seems to be “Toughen up!” Both for those with mental issues, and those non-proffesional men they open up to.
Yeah, talking about mental health needs to be normalized. But I feel a shift is slowly coming.On Instagram I see male therapist talking about how to work on your relationships, and one of the bigger ones have 3.9 million followers
I know at least two of my male friends that are seeing psychologists at the moment. I’ve also had 4 sessions in December. My wife and I have also had some couples therapy sessions over the last 3 or 4 years. When I talk about couples therapy to my married friends many actually get curious about it. I compare it to getting your car serviced. You get help fixing minor problems, before they cause bigger issues
“Men need to”
No.
Women need to reach out.
Screw this view that the solution must come from the victims.
Women are not necessarily the cause of men’s issues. I don’t see how soldiers with PTSD or untreated mental issues are women’s to solve.
A lot of issues are self-inflicted, men tend to think problems go away if you ignore them, or even worse, are oblivious to the problems. Especially in relationships. Luckily talking about mental load is becoming more common, and the smarter men, who were oblivious to that issue are stepping up. Relationships take work, also for men. If us men aren’t doing our part, I can easily see why women choose to leave.
What? Why women and not also other men? 🤔
Much easier for men to blame women than acknowledge that patriarchy is bad for them too
Suicide victims are also the perpetrators though