Now, realistically, we’re probably not gonna last forever. We’re 18 and 19 years old. But whenever marriage is brought up somehow, even when it’s around non-homophobic people or queer people themselves, she always says “he”, “my future husband”, “If I get married, I hope it’ll be to a man/guy who does ____.”

My girlfriend is bisexual and with the fact that we likely won’t last to get married, I understand this, but I feel confused and also a little sad for some reason because I’m not a man. IDK why I feel like this, I know it’s irrational and that she loves me, not a guy, so why do I feel this way?

When I was 17 (NB) I dated “Emma” (15F). We broke up when she was 16 and I had just turned 18. She said she wasn’t a good girlfriend, but I think differently. I think I was a bad partner.

I feel a nervous, tingling sensation in my chest and stomach when I think about Emma, and sometimes my face gets hot. I wouldn’t mind kissing her and I miss our relationship a little, but it’s also okay for me to just be friends, because I don’t know if she still likes girls/non-binary people.

What should I do? Do I still like her romantically? I have a girlfriend and queerplatonic partner, but I am also polyamorous.

I would either not risk making my girlfriend especially upset and not say anything because Emma doesn’t wanna date anyone, or I’d get it off my chest.

I ask as a butch lesbian (enby) myself. In Swedish, we have: truckflata or butchflata.

I suck at all 3 languages, but for femme I’ve just seen femmeflata.

I think it’s just Butch and Femme in German, but I’m still kinda learning that.

Lesbians in German is lesben and in Swedish, it’s “lesbiska” or “flator”.

He is called Thaddäus Tentakel in German or Bläckvard Tentakel in Swedish.