So, me, (22F), my fiancée Aiko (monogamous but supports me, 23F) and my boyfriend Will (23NB but he/they pronouns) are all in an open relationship. Will is also dating this guy Dave (26M) for 2 months, while we have been dating for like 4 months. We are seeing how it goes, but I have one problem.

While I get that Dave is new to him and all that, they always sleep over, play video games, etc. and Will never invites me to do that stuff with him, only Dave and Will invite each other. It’s a good thing I have Aiko to do that stuff with, but I mean, come on. I wanna spend time with Will too.

And I’ve even told him that and how I don’t like how he leaves me on “delivered” or “seen” for hours, and he just says “Oh, sorry!” or “I’m just busy” or “I’m just depressed”, so then I don’t bring it up again because he has a reason to do so and I feel petty.

Here’s the thing: He’s usually doing this, and he doesn’t do this often to Dave, just me. He always spams Dave and freaks out when he doesn’t respond, and while Will likes me, he couldn’t care less if I responded to him or not.

He says because Dave has been treating him badly, that he’s done with men, but he clearly likes men more or at least Dave more than me.

So, for a while, I (22F) only devoted (romantically) time and attention to Aiko (23F), my fiancée, as I have been dating her since I was 18 and I was monogamous for so long as I hadn’t met the right one. When I came to the USA and started to live with my parents near my friend Beth, I met this guy she knew since high school, Will, and we really clicked.

Will (23NB, [he/they so you don’t think I’m gendering him wrong]) is very hung up on this guy. We have been dating for like almost 4 months while he has been dating this new guy, Dave (26M), for about 2. They have sleepovers together, play video games, and all that stuff, but when I ask if he wants to sleep over or hang out, he will once in a blue moon. usually he barely answers my texts and is busy with Dave. He especially has been spending more attention on him due to Dave’s depression and his failure to respond to his text messages, making him cry so he’s been worried about him.

I get that, but even when he’s not worried and even when it’s been a while since they started dating, even when we started dating and stopped being just friends, he stopped responding. I tried texting him and he was like “Oh, I’m sorry” and continued.

has anyone else been in the same boat?

So I (22F) am dating Aiko. I have been for about 4 years. We are also engaged and have been for about 10 months. When I moved near my online friend Beth to the USA, I met her friend since high school Will. We really got along and now we’re dating, have been for 3 months, almost 4.

Well, Will (23NB, he/they BTW so people don’t think I’m misgendering him) is really hung up on this guy he’s also dating, Dave (26M). He started dating him about 2 months ago. They do a lot of things together, such as having sleepovers every week and sleeping on calls and such when they aren’t having sleepovers. They play video games together. They do a lot of stuff together. I can tell Dave means a lot to Will.

Recently, Dave has supposedly been going through a hard time and while Will does a lot more with Dave, he is still romantic with me and I care a lot about him as my partner. Well, Dave says he is depressed and losing interest in everything, but Will thought he didn’t mean him. Will suggested they play a game (I don’t know what, but a new release of a game) together and here Dave is, not responding to Will’s messages and playing the same game he agreed they’d play together.

They stopped having sleepovers and calling as much due to Dave’s depression and being busy and I will not stand for the fact that he made my boyfriend Will cry. What the hell!?