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  • It’s pretty basic when you dig into the social psychology.

    A classic outside the internet experiment would be a waiting room that starts to fill with smoke. Smoke starts to leak in at the ceiling. People see it. The variable is when the confederate (word for person who is an experimenter hire) gets up and leaves. Seeing someone leave, not the smoke itself, even as it builds up in the room, is a far better predictor of human behavior in that moment. People will take this farther than you’d think, waiting and then waiting some more, until a social cue occurs.

    Online is different, yes, but our social wiring doesn’t just go away. And now, the numbers of social cues are far, far easier to manipulate. I don’t know if they’re cheaper, but the numbers side of it is disturbing.




  • The search function is terrible. No matter how you filter it, even if the pseudo functional filters work it’s just the most subscribed to garbage I’ve repeatedly tried not to see on the home page. There’s no way to permanently block the garbage I never want to see. It’s an endless repeat loop of sameness. The thumbnails are the worst. Hobby channels are thus dead, it’s the same 50 videos I keep saying “not interested” to instead of anything fresh or new.

    I go there for Josh Johnson and a couple others, there’s no way to find decent content creators any more in that dumpster fire.


  • I think it was 10? years ago when I grudgingly tried a kindle because it was so ridiculously cheap and the people around me loved theirs.

    The Kindle was an Ad bomb. After engaging internet only, no TV, no ads, since, 2003? (Whenever xfiles, Buffy, DS9, and Firefly were done.) The kindle hit like a sledgehammer with the native ads system. I returned the failed tablet to Amazon.

    I don’t know how people live with that level of ad consumption and I grew up with TV commercials. Libby on iPad mini. It’s fine.











  • I’m old, so I’m more familiar with before me too than after. I believe a piece of what she is trying to say is the doubt that permeates any initial accusation. Doubt was the standard approach to any mention of rape or assault for decades.

    Back in college, in the 90s, a good friend was followed home from a party. She made it home, thought she was safe. While she was showering in her basement (house) apartment, she looked up to see hands and a nose pressed to the frosted glass of the window, trying to see in. She called the police. A pair of cops showed up and the first thing they asked wasn’t: are you ok. Or. Did you get a good look at the guy. No. They asked her if she’d been drinking tonight. Then: Well, what were you wearing when you walked home from this party?

    Footprints and knee prints in the dirt consistent with someone tramping into the flower bed to kneel down by her bathroom window. Hand prints and a nose grease smear on the glass. No attempt to investigate further. Chastised to drink less. She was not drunk, yet this was the takeaway message of that encounter instead of her safety. Encounters like these regarding the sexual safety of women were so common in the 90s.

    The salient point here is this post likely is not about flipping the innocent until proven guilty narrative. This is about the preliminary circumstances that would lead into a case and taking the woman’s safety seriously instead of ignoring perpetrators who leave evidence behind.

    If no one listens to you or takes you seriously, or avoids asking the relevant questions, that is a problem. Worse it’s a problem that was the status quo for decades.

    So, when OP says maybe we should listen to trumps accusers that’s what it likely means. To listen. Not to flip the innocent until proven guilty narrative.