• RebekahWSD@lemmy.world
    3·
    3 months ago

    Me and husband each have our own blankets and sheets and such on the one king bed. Cause he’s a furnace and I’d explode if I got that hot. It’s much nicer.

      • masterspace@lemmy.caEnglish
        1·
        3 months ago

        Ass to ass.

        Best sleep (on side):

        • Medium-thick, soft, flexible, cotten, blanket
        • Head pillow compressed to single shoulder height
        • Cuddle pillow to support top shoulder
        • Sleep mask to prevent light disruption
        • Partner ass to ass
        • Cat on top to hold everything down
  • ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    1·
    3 months ago

    I’ve dated one person who could not bear to be touched at all in her sleep (but she insisted on sharing the same bed, which made things awkward for me) and another person who snored, but I think that humans probably generally sleep better together. It isn’t a sexual thing - look at non-human animals and how they often sleep cuddled up together. As a kid, I shared a bed with my grandfather (we lived in a small apartment) and I would fall asleep hugging him, and as an adult I slept better when I could cuddle up with my dog.

  • jqubed@lemmy.world
    21·
    3 months ago

    I guess I’m in the minority that I have a harder time sleeping without my spouse than with. I realized about six months in that I’d rapidly developed some sort of dependence where I would fall asleep quickly if I spooned her. She had surgery in January and spent several weeks in the guest room so she could avoid the stairs, so we’ve tried being apart. It is nice if you have the space/budget for a king bed, though, to spread out from each other some.

  • Acamon@lemmy.world
    1·
    3 months ago

    Married and swear by seperate beds. It’s amazing if you’ve got the space. But it is good to make sure you get plenty of “lying about in bed together” time. But it’s great to be able to go off to your own bed after for a peaceful, undisturbed sleep. And being able to read a night or get dressed in the morning without worrying about disturbing your partner.

  • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    0·
    3 months ago

    I struggle to sleep without my husband. I need my feet to touch his, at least. We share a queen bed, even use the same blanket (it is a King blanket though). Im really surprised so many folks don’t sleep in the same bed at their partner here. Nothing wrong with it, I’m just surprised.

    Maybe things will change when we are older, but I couldn’t imagine.

    • socsa@piefed.socialEnglish
      1·
      3 months ago

      I am kind of incredulous that anyone actually sleeps better with a whole separate person in the bed. It gets too hot and you both wake up whenever the other one uses the bathroom, or if you don’t go to bed at the same time, or if you don’t get up at the same time. Just from those basic mechanics it seems to defy logic that actual sleep quality, beyond some intangible aesthetic, wouldn’t be negatively impacted.

  • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
    0·
    3 months ago

    We do separate beds. Mostly because I have a clinical sleep disorder. But we also have different mattress preferences, so even then I could make a case for it. Works great.

      • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
        3·
        3 months ago

        No, I’m bi-polar and need a very regimented sleep-hygiene to not slip into bouts of insomnia. I snore too (yes, sleep apnea), but she didn’t say we need separate beds because of that. I said we need separate beds because if I can’t sleep, I can’t perform. And a long string of insomnia can trigger a manic episode. But thanks for the armchair diagnosis.

    • Worthess@discuss.onlineOP
      01·
      3 months ago

      My only non solicited advice… don’t advertise your lonely… let it happen organically, then it’s real. Recognize it’s not forever. Nothing is, but enjoy the time you have with your significant other and embrace it.

        • Worthess@discuss.onlineOP
          1·
          3 months ago

          Relics of reddit… that wasn’t even close… I was giving my only wisdom from a place of experience, and seemingly got torn down for empathizing and trying getting to help…

  • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    11·
    3 months ago

    My ideal living situation with a partner would be:

    Two entirely separate living areas with individual bedrooms, plus a third area for both of us that also has a bed.

    So in other words, I’ll probably be single forever.